Work-Life-Love Balance

It feels like I was still wishing my family and friends a happy new year yesterday, then I blinked and boom, we are 21 days into the new year.

21 days later…

Anyhoo, it’s safe to say that 2024 is already in full swing.

I understand you're all focused on work and earning your first paycheck of the year to achieve your financial goals. However, it's important not to neglect your relationship with your romantic partner in the process.

Because at the end of the day, what will make your “W” meaningful is having someone to share it with.

Someone you love who loves you back.

So today I’d be sharing the exact method I use and recommend to my clients during our coaching sessions to achieve a “work-life-love balance”

Let’s get this!!

The only time you’re ever going to have to pour into your romantic relationship with your partner is the one you create and you can only create time for your relationship if you can successfully manage the time you have for yourself and your tasks.

The time management technique I recommend trying out is

Let me explain.

3 key concepts should begin to define your relationship with time and the priority you give to tasks from now on.

They are;

Urgency: This asks the question, how soon does this matter?

Importance: This asks the question, how much does this matter?

Significance: This asks the question, how long will this matter?

Now here’s what people rarely figure out;

An urgent task does not automatically make it significant.

An important task doesn’t automatically make it urgent or significant.

A significant task is always important but might not always be urgent and it can also be both i.e. It can be urgent and important.

So, how do you know the difference between urgent, important and significant tasks?

One word…context!

Context allows you to place tasks as urgent, important or significant.

By prioritising significant tasks, you’re automatically taking advantage of the Pareto principle A.K.A. 80/20 rule which states that;

The significance calculation helps you break free from the “urgency trap” and free up time that you can use for future activities of your choice.

For the tasks that fall under the urgent and important category only, here’s what I do and recommend you try;

Eliminate: The first question you ask concerning seemingly “urgent” and important tasks is; do I need to do this?
By saying No to some things, you give yourself the ability to focus on the few significant tasks that move the needle in the achievement of your objectives and goals. This then means you achieve your goals in a shorter time and have free time to allocate to other stuff.

Automate: If you cannot eliminate the “urgent” or “important” task, you have to create a system or process whereby the task gets done without your supervision or input. This then saves you time in the future you would have allocated to do the task.

Delegate: “urgent” and “important” tasks you cannot eliminate or automate, you delegate. Train someone to handle the task, or if possible, hire an individual with the expertise to efficiently and excellently perform the required duties.

So using the free time you’ve carved out, here’s how I’d recommend you invest into your romantic relationship with your partner.

Communication
To maintain love in a romantic relationship or marriage, couples should set aside at least 15 hours a week to engage in intimate conversations.
Yup! you read that right. 15 hours. that’s roughly 2 hours and 14 minutes a day. It’s a good thing you’ve already learned how to create more time for your relationship.

Intimacy
By intimacy, I’m talking about all 5 types (physical, mental, emotional, experiential and spiritual). This is the foundation of what people like to call “a spark” in their various unique romantic relationships and marriages.

Surprises
This includes but is not limited to date nights, weekend getaways and vacations.

Support
Use the time to be there for your partner when, where and how they need it.

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