LET'S SET THE SCENE 🌅
You’re sitting across from someone who seems perfect,
Until they say something that makes you cringe.
Your stomach flips, but you smile anyway and say nothing because saying something feels like “ruining the vibe.”
And the last thing you want to appear to be is a “buzzkill”,
So you tell yourself, “It’s fine,” even though it’s not.
And just like that, you’ve unknowingly taught them that crossing your boundaries is okay.
**Time Skip**
A few weeks later,
The little things you ignored are not so little anymore.
Now, instead of feeling excited about this person
you’re sitting there wondering…
How the fuck did this even happen?
How the fuck did I get here again?!?
If this sounds familiar, don’t worry, don’t beat yourself up.
I’ll help you break the cycle by explaining why boundaries are the single and most powerful way to protect your peace and how to create them without guilt or shame.
THE BREAKDOWN 🔧
Most people say, “Don’t rock the boat” because they think boundaries are about confrontation.
They think creating boundaries means picking a fight or demanding something unreasonable.
But that’s a lie we’ve all been successfully sold.
Boundaries are about saying, “This is what I need to feel respected.”
Nothing more, nothing less.
They aren’t ultimatums; they’re filters. The right person will respect your boundaries, while the wrong person will see it and leave.
Either way, you win.
Think about the happiest couples you know.
They didn’t get there because someone “compromised” their way to happiness.
They got there because both people knew what they needed and respected the other person's requirements.
The truth is that boundaries don’t “kill connection”, they build it.
If you want to take the first step toward breaking the cycle,
Start small:
Decide what you’ll no longer tolerate: Write down one or two things you’ve ignored that matter most to you.
Practice saying it: Use a structure like, “When [this] happens, I feel [this], or I need [this].” It doesn’t have to be perfect, but you have to be honest with yourself.
Stick to it: If someone can’t respect your boundaries, they’ve shown you who they are. Believe them.
Believe me, I know speaking up feels impossible when you've been taught to prioritize everyone else's comfort over your own.
But ignoring your needs doesn’t keep anyone happy, it just keeps you stuck.
That’s why I’ve set aside time this week for one-on-one sessions with anyone ready to “hash things out”, whether it’s boundaries or anything else standing between you and the right partner.
This isn’t just a coaching session; it’s your sign that it’s time to stop bending over backwards and start attracting the right partner.
Spots are limited and spread across just two days this week.
Grab yours before they’re gone.
YOUR GAMEPLAN 🎮
Imagine walking into your next date knowing exactly where your boundaries lie and how to stick to them without second-guessing yourself.
No more fear.
Just clarity and confidence.
Action Steps:
Write down two things you’ve been tolerating but shouldn’t.
Practice saying one boundary to a trusted friend or even in front of a mirror.
Book a coaching session to solidify your boundaries and get ongoing support.
QUICK NOTE 📨
You’re not “too much” for wanting what you need. If this email resonates with you, share it with a friend who needs the same wake-up call. Let’s build a community of people who refuse to settle.
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