GRIPE OF THE DAY 😤
Imagine this…
You’re curled up on the couch, staring at your phone—the same phone—you haven’t been able to put down all night.
But the notification you’re waiting for isn’t coming.
You swipe through your old texts, rereading them like a detective piecing together clues.
Everything felt so good last week.
They seemed so into you.
But now?
Nothing!
You check their social media. They’re posting stories, liking memes, and living “their best life” like nothing happened.
It stings.
You try to distract yourself, but it doesn’t work.
You put your phone down.
5 minutes later, you pick it back up.
“Maybe they’re just busy.
Maybe they didn’t see my text.
Maybe…
But deep down, you know the truth.
They’re ignoring you.
It’s not just the silence that hurts.
It’s the not knowing.
The second-guessing.
The way it makes you feel disposable.
Fast forward three months.
Out of the blue, your phone buzzes.
It’s them.
“Hey, how’ve you been?”
Your heart skips a beat.
But then it hits you.
Why now?
Where were you when I needed answers?
Here’s what mainstream sources don’t tell you about ghosting: It’s not just about poor communication.
It’s also about power and a slew of other reasons, like a fear of confrontation, an inability to handle emotions maturely, or being too selfish to care about how their silence affects others (in this case, it’s you).
None of which has anything to do with you.
THE BREAKDOWN 🛠️
I know ghosting feels like a personal attack.
It’s easy to think: “What’s wrong with me? Why wasn’t I enough?”
But as I’ve said earlier, ghosting says nothing about your self-worth.
Here’s what’s going on:
Power Dynamics: Ghosting creates a power imbalance. It’s a way for someone to test how much control they have over your emotions.
When they return, they’re not apologizing. They’re checking to see if you’re still waiting.
Emotional Cowardice: Some people ghost because they can’t handle uncomfortable conversations. Instead of saying, “This isn’t working for me,” they disappear. It’s avoidance, plain and simple.
Selfishness: Ghosters often prioritize their comfort over other people’s feelings (in this case, yours). Instead of respecting your time and emotions, they take the easy way out at your expense.
FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out): The fear of missing out keeps them in the cycle. They ghost because they’re chasing something “better.” But when that doesn’t work out, they return hoping you’ll still be there.
Lack of Emotional Maturity: Handling emotions and relationships requires maturity. Ghosting is a shortcut for those not ready to communicate like adults.
I want you to know that most “ghosters” aren’t thinking about you. Their issues and inadequacies as people drive their actions, not your value.
YOUR GAMEPLAN 🎯
Here’s how you don’t let ghosting fuck with your head:
Step 1: Call It What It Is
What to do: Stop blaming yourself for their silence.
Why it works: Naming the behaviour—ghosting—helps you detach your worth from their actions.
How to do it: Remind yourself: “This isn’t about me. It’s about their inability to communicate.”
Step 2: Don’t Engage When They Return
What to do: When they pop back up, resist the urge to respond.
Why it works: It sends the message that you respect yourself too much to entertain games.
How to do it: Block them if needed and write down your feelings instead of texting back.
Step 3: Set Your Standard
What to do: Decide what you will—and won’t—tolerate in relationships.
Why it works: Boundaries give you control and protect your emotional health.
How to do it: Write a list of behaviours you won’t accept (e.g., inconsistent communication, ghosting) and remind yourself of your list whenever you feel tempted to lower your standards.
Step 4: Redirect Your Energy
What to do: Focus on people who value you.
Why it works: Giving your energy to people who show up leaves no space for “ghosters” to linger in your life.
How to do it: Spend time with supportive friends and invest in hobbies that make you feel alive and connected.
THIS WEEK’S QUICK WIN EXERCISE
Tonight, grab a notebook (or open your phone’s notepad app) and write this:
“Ghosting doesn’t define me. It doesn’t control me. I’m worth relationships that are built on respect and honesty.”
Say it out loud every day this week. Watch how your mindset shifts.
I’d love to know how you felt after the exercise so feel free to share your experience.
YOUR SHOT AT SOMETHING DIFFERENT
You’ve read the breakdown. You’ve got the game plan. But if you’re ready to go all in and truly take back control, this is for you.
The Ghosting Playbook is your no-BS guide to breaking free from the spiral of ghosting and coming out stronger.
Here’s what’s inside:
A deep dive into why people ghost and what it means (hint: it’s not about you).
Tools to spot red flags and manipulation early—so you don’t get blindsided again.
Practical exercises to rebuild your confidence and set boundaries that stick.
And much more…
This isn’t just about getting over them. It’s about reclaiming your self-worth and ensuring ghosting never has power over you again.
If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself, chasing closure, or letting their silence keep you stuck, The Ghosting Playbook is your next step.
QUICK NOTE 💌
Did you find this valuable? Please share it with a friend who might need this. You could be saving their relationship.
P.S. First time reading? Subscribe here to get weekly insights that keep your relationship thriving.
SAY HI 👋🏽
Reach out anytime on any platform below!