Jason stood in front of his bed, in his dimly lit room, the light of his iPhone shining across his face.
He stared at his phone, looking at the text he had typed, erased, and typed again.
His thumb hovered over send.
The more he thought about it, the tighter his chest felt, and the faster his heartbeat pounded.
He read the text out loud for the umpteenth time again.
"Hey, I had a great time the other night. Why don’t we do this sometime again, Friday night perhaps?"
He groaned.
“I sound like a fucking douchebag,”
Then, he mocked himself in a distorted voice:
"HeY, i HaD a GrEaT tImE tHe OtHeR nIgHt. WhY dOn’T wE dO tHiS sOmEtImE aGaIn, FrIdAy NiGhT, pErHaPs?"
Who even talks like this in 2025?
That thought cracked the door open for self-doubt to flood in.
What if she was just being polite when she laughed at my jokes?
What if I sounded too eager during our conversation?
What if she’s laughing about me with her friends right now?
His brain spiralled,
His mouth went dry and his fingers gripped the phone harder.
Finally, he sighed and tossed it onto his bed.
“I’ll text her later,” he said as he sat on his bed.
But deep down, he knew he was lying to himself.
This was his usual playbook when something felt “too difficult”.
It always starts with overthinking the hell out of the situation…check
Followed by doubting himself…check
Then assuming the worst…check
Which then ended with him allowing the opportunity to slip through his fingers.
Dating wasn’t the problem.
His lack of confidence was.
Confidence Isn’t Something You’re Born With, It’s Something You Build
Jason was a decent-looking guy.
He was witty and smart (not Einstein-level smart, but not dumb enough to mistake an onion for an apple.).
Yet somehow, he convinced himself he wasn’t worth choosing.
That he had nothing to offer.
That no woman would be genuinely interested in him.
And because he believed it, he acted like it.
His self-doubt wasn’t just a feeling, it was a false reality he kept reinforcing.
His actions are a common mistake made by people with self-doubt.
They treat their doubts as facts.
He thought back to his date with Anna.
She laughed at his jokes.
She leaned in when he spoke.
She even mentioned how rare it was to meet a man who listened to her and understood her.
Yet somehow, he convinced himself none of it mattered.
Because to him, holding onto his limiting belief and crushing self-doubt felt safer than risking rejection.
But, Jason and people like him fail to understand that real confidence isn’t about knowing the outcome before you act.
It’s about acting despite not knowing.
**The Moment That Changed Everything**
He grabbed his phone again from the surface of his bed.
His stomach twisted,
His self-doubt whispered;
Don’t fucking do it!
She probably forgot about you already.
Just wait a little longer.
His thumb hovered over send.
Two weeks ago, he typed out another message to a different girl.
He never sent it.
And before that?
Same story.
Every single time, his hesitation won.
His fear won!
But tonight?
Tonight was his “fuck it!” moment.
He hit send before his brain could stop him and talk himself out of it again.
Then, he threw his phone onto the bed like a live grenade.
And in that moment, something shifted.
Not because he knew what Anna would say.
But because for the first time, he chose to believe in himself more than his fears.
Your Game Plan
Confidence isn’t built by thinking about it.
It’s built by doing.
Sending the text.
Showing up.
Deciding you’re worth knowing, dating, and choosing—even if someone doesn’t see it yet.
But confidence isn’t the only way people sabotage their love lives.
Some keep choosing the wrong people and wonder why nothing works out.
Some ignore major red flags until they’re too deep to walk away.
Some waste months—or years—on someone who isn’t truly aligned with them.
The biggest mistakes in dating don’t always look like mistakes.
That’s why the smartest move is to stop relying on “hope” and start making deliberate, value-aligned choices in love.
Where I Come In
I help singles make confident, value-driven choices to attract the right partner without wasting time on the wrong people.
For some, that means overcoming self-doubt.
For others, it means learning to spot the right person before it’s too late.
For many, it’s about breaking the cycle of selecting individuals who are not aligned with them.
This isn’t surface-level advice.
It’s about real, deep clarity, so second-guessing stops and decision-making becomes effortless.
That’s exactly what my weekly coaching sessions are designed to do.
Break the cycle of hesitation and self-doubt.
Help you recognize real compatibility.
Ensure you stop wasting time on the wrong people—before it’s too late.
Spots are limited because I work closely with every client.
Hesitation has already cost enough.
Now, it’s time to start choosing love on your terms.