They acted like they couldn’t get enough of you.
Until you wanted more.
Then they vanished.
Texting every day.
Calls on time.
Plans made without begging.
It felt different this time.
It felt like maybe—just maybe—you could breathe again.
You let yourself hope.
You opened the door.
And they walked right in...
Then disappeared like it was nothing.
Suddenly, replies slowed down.
Plans became “maybe.”
Their energy dipped.
And you went from being wanted to being tolerated.
Three weeks ago, they couldn’t wait to see you.
This week, they’re acting like hanging out is charity work.
And now here you are—overthinking texts, replaying calls, blaming yourself.
Was I too much?
Did I move too fast?
Should I have waited longer before showing how I felt?
You tell yourself, maybe they’re stressed.
Maybe they’re scared.
Maybe it was just bad timing.
But deep down, you know.
Because someone who’s ready doesn’t run when you get real.
Someone emotionally available doesn’t punish you for feeling.
Someone serious doesn’t vanish the moment you stop pretending not to care.
They didn’t leave because you caught feelings.
They left because your feelings exposed their lack of them.
And that’s the real betrayal.
The fact that they never wanted something real.
They just wanted to feel wanted.
And you?
You walked in with your whole heart, while they walked out with your peace.
But listen closely now…
It wasn’t your feelings that hurt you.
It was your filter.
You keep getting attached to people before you know if they’re capable of staying attached.
You mistake chemistry for character.
You chase consistency in people who only know how to perform connection, not build it.
You’re not broken.
But your filter is.
You’re trying to build forever with people who aren’t even built for Friday night.
If you want to end this cycle and want to stop loving people who ghost you the second it gets real,
Then you need a system that filters for emotional availability before your feelings get involved.
That’s exactly what my Compatibility Filtering System gives you.
It’s not just insight, it’s protection.
You’ll learn how to:
Spot emotionally unavailable people in under 3 conversations
Stop confusing chemistry with compatibility
Avoid future heartbreaks by never starting them in the first place
If you're tired of bleeding, stop letting the wrong ones hold the knife
Because the next time someone vanishes after you get vulnerable, it shouldn’t come as a surprise.
It should be impossible.
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