The fuck-boy's blueprint

On today’s issue, we’d be tackling;

When you steer clear of those who only want to play games with your feelings, you open up to finding someone who truly values and respects you.

This means you'll feel happier and more confident in yourself, knowing you're in a relationship where you're appreciated for who you are.

But if you ignore the warning signs of a "fuckboy" and keep falling for their tricks, you could end up feeling constantly hurt and used.

Eventually, you might lose trust in others and find it hard to believe that anyone could genuinely care about you.

It could leave you feeling lonely and doubting your worth, making it difficult to build healthy relationships in the future.

Fuckboys…

They are everywhere.

For formality’s sake, a "fuckboy" is a guy who just wants to have fun without any commitment.

He is usually nice initially but only interested in short-term relationships and casual hookups.

Once he gets what he wants, he doesn’t stick around or care about your feelings.

He’s not looking for a serious relationship, just some fun without any real connection.

Believe it or not, fuck-boys come in all races, sizes and heights. They’re not always necessarily the “jocks” or insanely handsome guys.

I’ve met fuckboys who have beer bellies and receding hairlines.

What makes fuckboys so irresistible then, if they don’t all look like supermodels?

Their secret lies in how they make you feel.

They use behavioural psychology and human conditioning of reward schedules to their advantage.

Reward schedules determine when and how often a reward is given, which can influence behaviour and learning in various ways.

The reward schedule fuckboys like to use is called; a variable ratio schedule.

They use this to keep people—usually women with low self-esteem—hooked on them

This is when a reward is given after an unpredictable number of responses.

This trick works because they don't give attention or affection consistently. Instead, they give it now and then, making you feel special and hopeful.

Here are instances where they use this trick;

A fuckboy might give you lots of attention one day and then ignore you the next, making you wonder what's going on.

They might talk about going on dates or a future together, making you excited and hopeful.

But they're not consistent. When you think things are going well, they might pull away or disappear.

Because their attention is unpredictable, you keep hoping the next time will be better or different.

This trick keeps you guessing and trying to get their attention or affection, even when they're not interested.

It makes you want to do more to get them to like you.

This is the same trick casinos use in their slot machines and EA uses in the loot boxes.

This trick is effective because it taps into how our brains are wired to seek rewards and respond to uncertainty.

They use the human brain as their weapon of choice.

This is what makes them so dangerous.

They use your brain against you for their benefit.

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1. Recognize Red Flags
Pay attention to signs like inconsistency in communication, avoiding serious conversations about the future, or making excuses for not committing. If their actions don't match their words, it's a warning sign.

2. Set Boundaries
Establish clear boundaries about what you want and expect from the relationship. Don't settle for less than you deserve. Don’t also be afraid to communicate your boundaries firmly.

3. Trust Your Instincts
When something feels off or too good to be true, trust your gut instinct. Don't ignore your feelings or rationalize questionable behaviour. Your intuition is a good guide.

4. Take Things Slow
Avoid rushing into a relationship or becoming too emotionally invested too quickly. Take the time to get to know the person and observe their actions. Use the concept of time to your advantage.

5. Communicate Openly
Have honest conversations about your intentions, expectations, and feelings. Ensure you're both on the same page about what you want from the relationship and where it's headed.

6. Focus on Your Self-Worth
Remember your worth and value as a person. Don't let anyone make you feel less than you are or manipulate you into settling for less than you deserve.

7. Seek Support
Talk to friends, family members or trained relationship coaches you trust about your concerns and experiences. Sometimes an outside perspective can help you see things more clearly and make better decisions.

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