“wym, lol, gtfoh, stfu, heart emoji, thumbs-up emoji, middle-finger emoji, kiss emoji, eggplant emoji, eggplant emoji, eggplant emoji, pussycat + water splash emoji, eggplant emoji + pussycat emoji + water splash emoji + lip biting emoji.”
Texting is awesome.
It lets you talk to ten people at once, send blurry selfies, stay connected, and drop **cough** nudes **cough** to your romantic interests.
You can argue politics, swap memes, or tell your bestie how drunk you got at brunch. It’s a vibe.
Fun, very convenient stuff.
And that same convenience is exactly what’s keeping people stuck.
It’s turned grown-ass adults socially awkward, disconnected, and terrified of real human connection.
People are so addicted to hiding behind screens, they’ve forgotten how to read body language, hold conversations, or build actual intimacy.
And this is where it gets dangerous for dating.
Because once you fall into the rabbit hole of constant texting, hoping it’ll somehow build something real, you’re on a fast track to disappointment.
Texting isn’t where intimacy happens.
You cannot build genuine connection through a fucking phone screen.
It’s meant to be the gateway that leads to in-person meetups. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Genuine chemistry, compatibility, and connection (my 3 C’s Framework) only happen face-to-face, through shared experiences, not emojis and text bubbles.
The point I’m trying to drive into your skull this Sunday is simple...
Stop using texting as a crutch.
Stop hiding because you’re afraid of rejection, awkwardness, or your insecurities.
Here’s how to escape the texting blackhole and build something real:
1. Use texting as the opener, not the venue.
Once you get their number, use texting to quickly gauge chemistry (shared interests, passions, hobbies, etc). Don’t turn it into your new home.
2. Set a real-life meet ASAP.
Pick a spot with a shared activity you both enjoy. This will make it easier to vibe naturally and avoid those stiff, job-interview-style convos.
3. Have real conversations.
Start with light banter about the activity. Then ease into one or two topics that reveal compatibility (values, priorities, mindset, etc). If it aligns, great. If not, that’s clarity too.
4. Post-hangout follow-up.
Thank them for a good time. Keep the convo going around shared interests. Plan another activity.
5. Rinse and repeat.
Do this a few times. You’ll know—based on how they show up in person, not over texts—if they're someone worth dating, friending, or dropping.
Because if you don’t move things into real life fast, you’ll keep mistaking texting for connection, wasting weeks, sometimes months, or even years (yup! I've seen and heard it happen a lot) on people who were never right for you.
This works because:
Shared experiences trigger chemistry.
Face-to-face interactions reveal compatibility.
And connection is born through presence, not pixels.
This is how grown-ups date.
You’re welcome.
P.S. If you’ve been stuck in text purgatory, wasting weeks on dead-end convos and overthinking your next “lol,” book one of my 3 exclusive 20-minute Wake-Up Call coaching slots this Wednesday.
Let’s fix this before you waste another month pretending texting is dating.
See you next Sunday.