Could He Cheat?

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The first thing you have to know and accept is this; cheating does not just happen. It is often pre-meditated…like murder.

Why the similarity between cheating and murder, you ask? Well, murder ends with the death of a person, and an affair often ends with the death of a relationship.

If you’re about to enter/start a relationship with a man, or you just entered one, here are telltale signs he'll probably cheat on you

1. HE CHEATED WITH YOU ON HIS EX

Oh! You thought you were going to wreck a relationship he had with another woman and go and live happily ever after with him?

We’ve all heard this saying “Karma’s a bitch!”. If you know he had an affair with you when he was in a relationship, my dear.

HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU!

I honestly don’t know what you were expecting.

Someone had shown you that he doesn’t respect boundaries and commitment and has no self-control by cheating with you when he was in a relationship with his (ex) girlfriend and you’re wondering if he will cheat on you with another woman?

2. HE LACKS SELF-CONTROL
If you notice patterns of immediate gratification with little to no delayed gratification in his life, then you know he will likely cheat.

Self-control by both parties involved is a vital requirement for a faithful relationship.

A good number of cheats lack self-control when they are with other women.

Heck! A significant number of cheats lack self-control in various areas of their lives as well.

Be it with their temper, food, finances and other things.

A pattern of a lack of self-control is a glaring sign he will likely cheat on you with another woman when she gives him a chance or if the opportunity presents itself.

3. ALL HIS FRIENDS ARE CHEATS
In my professional opinion, this is a glaring sign.

Human Beings, by nature, are easily influenceable creatures.

We tend to pick up the traits and characters of other people in our environment from birth until we die.

Our social circle influences us (e.g. our parents, friends at school, colleagues at work, and the people we see as our role models).

If the man you want to start a relationship with, has friends that cheat on their current partners, it is only a matter of time before he cheats on you, even if he has not cheated on you.

Never underestimate the human need to belong and the need for acceptance.

Humans pick up traits and characteristics that enable them to fit into a particular tribe, group, or society.

So, because he needs to be accepted by his friends, it is only a matter of time before he picks up the cheating trait.

4. HE KEEPS YOU A SECRET
If nobody, and I mean nobody in his life, knows about you, he is not likely to cheat.

He is already cheating.

And you are the one he is using to cheat.

You’re probably wrecking another woman's home or relationship somewhere.

This sign is glaringly obvious! Do not enter a relationship or start anything with any man who wants to keep you a secret.

Even men who don’t want people to know their business will introduce you to the people in their lives — the inner circle they trust — and their mentors or even their parents.

5. HE IS A PORN ADDICT
Depending on who you ask or the article you read porn might be the next best thing after sliced bread or an invention specially cooked up by the devil in his lab to make men mindless slaves and destroy the very fabric of society.

My job, however, is to give you a breakdown using my professional experience, training and discussion with experts on the issue.

Now to be clear, I’m not talking about men who “casually watch porn”

Even though casually watching porn is how porn addiction starts

I’m talking about men who are addicted to watching pornography.

In case you want to know the difference, according to Medical News Today, an addiction is “an inability to stop using a substance or engaging in a behaviour even though it is causing psychological & physical harm”.

A man addicted to porn often wants to replicate what he sees in the videos in real life.

Porn also encourages the objectification of people (both men and women). People — both men and women addicted to porn — often see sex as a physical activity for pleasure, not a channel to foster intimacy with their partners.

If you do not give him or perform the same actions he watches the adult actors and actresses perform. He will want to get it from someone who can give it to him without batting an eyelid or giving it a second thought.

6. HE HAS INCONSISTENT COMMITMENT PATTERNS IN HIS LIFE
Suppose you notice that the person you are about to enter a relationship with has a pattern of quitting.

Especially when they make him feel uncomfortable or when things get challenging.

In that case, he will likely cheat on you.

Why?

Because maintaining a relationship is hard work.

It involves consistent work from both parties involved.

Work he is used to quitting because it makes him feel uncomfortable.

You will also notice that he is also afraid of commitment.

Because commitment to something or someone means consistent work on that thing or with that person. Work that he doesn’t want to do.

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For women not yet dating men who show these signs;
1. Know Yourself and Set Boundaries
Before starting a relationship, know what you want and set clear rules for yourself. If a guy has cheated before, be careful. You deserve someone who respects you.

2. Look for Kindness and Understanding
Choose someone who is nice and understands your feelings. If he's surrounded by friends who cheat or don't commit to things, it might mean he's not the right guy for you.

3. Check if You Share the Same Values
Having similar values and life goals helps a lot. If his friends cheat or if he's not committed in other areas, think twice. Find someone who wants the same things in life as you do.

If you happen to currently be in a romantic relationship with a man who has shown most or all of the signs I’ve mentioned;

4. Talk and Build Trust
If you see signs he might cheat, talk to him about it without blaming him. Talking can help you understand each other better.

5. Consider Couples Counseling
Counselling can help you both communicate better and solve problems. A counsellor can help you trust each other more.

6. Think About What You Want
Reflect on what you need from the relationship. If he doesn’t respect or commit to you, prioritise your happiness and what's best for you.

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