Lisa sat across from her therapist, arms crossed.
“I love myself,” she said like she was trying to convince both of them.
The therapist just nodded, waiting.
Lisa exhaled. “I work on myself. I journal. I meditate. I take myself on solo dates. But I’m still single. So either the universe is fucking with me, or self-love is a scam.”
Her therapist smiled like she’d heard this before. “Who told you self-love would get you a partner?”
Lisa blinked. “I mean… everybody?”
Silence.
Then, the realization hit like a truck.
Oh.
She’d done everything right. Every self-love practice. Every affirmation. Every “vibrate at a higher frequency” TikTok trick.
So why the fuck was she still alone?
She had swallowed the lie whole.
The viral posts.
The self-help books.
The “just be patient” bullshit.
Because that’s what everyone said:
“You just need to love yourself first.”
“The right person will come when you least expect it.”
Bullshit!
She was still single.
Still waiting.
Still fucking confused.
But even though the realization hit her hard, she wasn’t ready to let go of the belief just yet.
Because if self-love wasn’t the missing piece, then what was?
If she wasn’t single because she lacked self-worth, then why had every relationship failed?
The doubt crept in.
Maybe she just needed more self-love.
Maybe she wasn’t doing it right.
Maybe the problem was still her.
It took weeks before she finally admitted the truth.
Loving herself wasn’t the problem. She was just dating in the dark.
Self-love is important. But self-love won’t put you in the right rooms.
Self-love won’t make you choose better partners.
Self-love won’t replace dating strategy.
Happy, thriving relationships don’t happen by accident.
The people who have them aren’t just “manifesting” love. They’re intentional.
They know what they’re looking for.
They know how to spot it.
They know how to build it.
Meanwhile, the ones sitting around waiting for love to ‘just happen’ are still… waiting.
Lisa stopped waiting.
She stopped blaming herself for "not loving herself enough."
She stopped believing the universe would magically deliver her person.
She started doing the one thing she’d avoided for years—dating with clarity.
This won’t change overnight.
But if you’re done wasting time on a myth, here’s where you start:
Stop confusing self-love with relationship skills. They are not the same.
Determine who you want and what makes a relationship work FOR YOU.
Put yourself in the right places where high-quality partners FOR YOU exist.
You can’t journal your way into a relationship.
You can’t affirm your way into a connection.
You have to move.
Lisa figured it out. That’s why she’s no longer stuck.
She’s dating differently, choosing better, and building something real.
Meanwhile, the ones still waiting for love to “just happen” are still… waiting.
Another month. Another year. Another cycle of overthinking, wasted time, and the wrong people.
Most people don’t wake up until they’ve wasted years making the same mistakes when they could have been building something real instead.
Self-love is a great start, but it won’t magically bring the right person into your life.
That takes clarity, strategy, and knowing exactly how to choose the right partner.
The Dating Clarity Sprint gives you that clarity without the guesswork or confusion.
The right partner isn’t going to appear magically.
Stop waiting. Start choosing better.