Navigating the Minefield of Relationship Milestones

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Successfully getting through relationship milestones increases and strengthens the intimate bond between you and your romantic partner.

It sets a strong base for a loving relationship built on trust, talking openly, and supporting each other.

On the flip side, if you and your partner manage to fuck this up, it can lead to lead to communication breakdowns, trust issues, and resentment between you two.

But wait…there’s more!

These challenges can also spill over into other areas of your life and negatively impact your work and social relationships.

Relationship milestones are checkpoints or special moments in a romantic relationship that show how it's growing and changing over time.

They are steps that couples go through together as they get closer and more committed to each other.

For example, the first time you go on a date with your partner or when you both decide to date exclusively are early milestones.

As the relationship progresses, milestones can include getting engaged, getting married, and even starting a family.

These milestones help mark the journey of a relationship, from its beginning to deeper commitments and shared life experiences.

Personally and professionally ( as a relationship coach), I’ve observed that there are two paths couples take when moving through relationship milestones together.

The first path is through an agreed decision. This is when a couple has intentional conversations and intentionally chooses to move to the next phase of their relationship together.

They don’t agree to move to the next phase of their relationship till they both agree.

This means they are on the same page about the time frame to talk about the next relationship checkpoint, their roles and responsibilities, and the boundaries and relationship rules they set to match their new relationship stage.

For example, a couple might decide to marry after 3 months of getting engaged and start having kids after 3 years of marriage and the roles they both take on during those stages.

The second path I’ve noticed couples take is through “stumbling”.

Stumbling involves a lot of assumptions and ‘sliding”.

When moving into their next relationship stage or milestone, there’s no deliberate thought, discussion, or intentionality behind their reasons and actions.

When couples "slide" or "stumble" through relationship milestones, they do not think carefully or talk much about these big steps.

Instead of planning together, they just let things happen without really deciding.

For example, they might get engaged because it seems like the next “logical” thing to do, not because they both want to commit their lives to each other forever.

Stumbling happens for various reasons, such as societal expectations, fear of conflict, or the most common one, simply going with the flow without considering the long-term implications.

This explains why their relationships are filled with mismatched expectations, arguments, resentments and unhappiness.

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To avoid stumbling through relationship milestones, you can here are some things you can do:

Talk About It: Talk to your romantic partner before reaching a milestone. Share your thoughts, feelings, and expectations to ensure you're on the same page.

Set Goals Together: Identify what you both want for your relationship and set goals for reaching milestones. This can help you make decisions that align with your shared vision.

Check-In Regularly: Have regular check-ins to discuss how you both feel about the relationship's progress and any upcoming milestones. This keeps communication lines open and helps avoid surprises.

Seek Advice: Don't hesitate to seek advice from trusted friends, family, or relationship counsellors and coaches. They can offer insights and perspectives that might help you make informed decisions.

Take Your Time: Don't rush into decisions. Give yourselves time to discuss, think, and decide what's best for you as a unit. Rushing can lead to regrets or misunderstandings later on.

Be Honest: Always be honest with each other about your feelings, concerns, and fears regarding milestones. Honesty builds trust and strengthens your relationship.

Celebrate Together: When you reach a milestone, celebrate it together. This marks the occasion and reinforces your commitment and shared joy.

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