Most Couples Are Already Doomed... Here’s Why

Imagine this…

It’s date night, and your partner’s talking, but your mind is elsewhere. As they speak, you can’t help but wonder: Am I overthinking? Or is there something here I’m missing?

Everywhere you look, couples are laughing, connecting, sharing dreams—and here you are, quietly wondering if you’re just “settling.” That nagging question—Is this it?—sticks with you.

Here’s the hard truth: nearly half of all divorces happen because people chose the wrong partner initially. They saw the signs, but life swept them along. Now, they feel trapped by issues that were there all along.

This is one of the reasons I offer a Relationship Clarity Session: to help you see clearly if you’re building something lasting or just hoping it will work out.

In a single session, we can uncover whether you’re heading for a fulfilling future together—or years of wondering, “What if?”

Most people think finding the right partner is about that spark, or just “knowing” when it’s right.

But here’s the truth no one wants to admit…

The idea that love alone makes a relationship work? Total myth. The reality is, that 90% of a relationship’s success depends on picking the right partner—someone whose values, goals, and respect for your journey align with yours.

Here’s proof: research from the Gottman Institute shows that couples who share core values and future goals are 80% more likely to stay happy together. They argue less, communicate better, and genuinely feel like a team. Too often, people ignore these basics, assuming love will fill in the gaps—and that’s where things fall apart.

Imagine the peace of knowing your relationship is built on solid ground. When you choose with clarity, your relationship transforms.

Let’s get you there.

Picture this: 60 days from now…

To help you get there, here are three steps you can take today:

THE VISION CHECK-IN
What: Sit down and talk about your five-year goals.
Why: Couples who share plans build deeper, stronger bonds.
How: Ask, “Where do you see us in five years?” Listen openly, and share honestly.
Result: You’ll discover if your visions align or if gaps exist to bridge.

THE VALUES TEST
What: List your top five values, and have your partner do the same.
Why: Shared values are the foundation of long-term compatibility.
How: Compare your lists, discuss all differences, and identify shared values or deal-breakers.
Result: You’ll see if your values align and where there’s room for growth.

THE WEEKLY REALITY CHECK
What: Set aside time each week to review your relationship.
Why: Consistent check-ins prevent small issues from snowballing.
How: Once a week, ask, “Is there anything we should work on together?”
Result: You’ll keep trust strong and tackle any issues early on.

THIS WEEK’S CHALLENGE 💪🏽
Share your top five values with your partner and compare them tonight. You might be surprised by what you find. And remember—I read every response personally, so let me know how it goes!

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