GRIPE OF THE DAY
As cliché and borderline embarrassing as this is going to sound, In today’s issue we’d be tackling:
The dating pandemic of “the simp”
Defining who a simp is
Signs of a simp
Why simps “simp”
Playbook to stop simping
Alright…let’s begin!!!
THE BREAKDOWN
This week has been weird for me—professionally speaking.
For some weird reason, all I saw when I went online were men and the stories of men putting women on a pedestal to their detriment and self-worth.
Stories of men risking their jobs, financial security and safety to please a woman who is not only not interested in them romantically but a walking, breathing, living red flag.
Sadly, my coaching sessions weren’t different. I know, I’m beginning to sound like a “red pill bro”
Honestly, I assumed that by now people would know better and choose people who choose them when choosing who to pick as a suitable romantic partner.
I was wrong.
First, for those who do not know, a simp is a man who is overly submissive or attentive to someone they are romantically interested in, often to the point of being perceived as needy or desperate.
Spotting a simp may not be obvious to the layman, but to a trained eye—like mine—it’s quite easy. The tell-tale signs a man is a simp are;
Giving too many compliments: Always saying nice things to the person he likes, even if he doesn’t mean it.
Always doing whatever the other person wants: Going out of his way to make the other person happy, to the detriment of his happiness.
Spending a lot of money on the other person: When he buys expensive things for the woman he likes without thinking if he can afford it.
Always needing approval: He wants the person he likes to like him all the time and he feels bad when they don't.
Ignoring problems in the relationship: He pretends everything is okay even when there are serious issues with their relationship dynamics.
Not respecting himself: He puts the other person's needs above their own all the time and he does not take care of his own needs.
Letting the other person control everything: He never stands up for himself and always allows the person he likes to make all the decisions.
He is too obsessed: He only thinks about the woman he likes and does not make time to do anything else with his time or life. This is an extreme sign and mostly found in people—mostly me—called “finished men”.
Men simp for these core reasons; a distorted self-image which then leads to a lack of self-worth, and materialises as low self-esteem.
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YOUR PLAYBOOK
Here are practical, simple but not easy steps anyone reading this can take to break the abnormal behaviour called simping;
Know yourself better
Understand the things you do that might be seen as simping. Think back on past relationships to see if there's a pattern.
Set limits
Decide what you're okay with in relationships and stick to it. Don't do things that go against what you believe in to make someone else happy.
Improve yourself
Invest in getting better at things you like and want to do, even if it's not about dating.
Feel good about yourself
Work on feeling confident and believing in yourself. With self-confidence, you won't need others to tell you you're okay.
Speak up for yourself
Don't be afraid to say what you want and need (nicely). It's okay to have opinions and share them.
Have good relationships
Look for relationships where you both treat each other well and feel equal. Avoid validation-seeking relationships A.K.A relationships where you have to prove your worth.
Balance your life
Don't spend all your time and energy on dating. Make sure you have time for work, hobbies, and friends too.
Take care of yourself
Make sure you're healthy and happy by resting, eating well, and exercising. If you need help, talk to your friends or a therapist.
Question what people say you should do
Don't just do things because people say that's how you should act. Be yourself and do what feels right for you.
Be honest with yourself
Don't try to be someone you're not just to make others happy. It's okay to be different and do things your way.
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