Hello beautiful people,
If you want to maintain a long term happy romantic relationship, you have to sustain the following brain systems;
Sex Drive: You have to have frequent sex with your partner. This would help you connect and experience physical intimacy as well as boost emotional intimacy between the both of you
Romantic love: If you want to sustain feelings of intense romantic love, “novelty” has to be your watchword. Novelty is doing new or unusual experiences. And being novel doesn’t have to break the bank. You could maybe take a new route while riding your bicycle with your partner or while taking a walk. You could also go out to dinner and try different restaurants or go to the same restaurant and try a new dish. And if your bank account is up for the challenge you could go on vacation to different states or countries and experience different cultures. But for novelty to work it has to be consistent.
Feelings of deep emotional attachment: Feelings of deep can be boosted by engaging in rituals of connection. Rituals of connection are activities couples do together that are pre-designed and pre-planned and agreed upon by both of you. This includes taking a shower together, date nights, watching your favourite tv shows together etc. It can also be boosted by staying in touch with your partner physically and emotionally. Any kind of physical sexual and non-sexual touch drives up the oxytocin system. (oxytocin is the bonding hormone).
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