Is your relationship at risk?

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42 seconds! That’s how long it’s estimated for a divorce to occur in the United States of America alone.

This means that 86 divorces occur every hour, 2046 divorces are finalised daily, 14,364 divorces happen weekly, and 746,971 divorces happen yearly.

In the time it takes you to watch a 2-hour movie, more than 172 divorces occur in America.

The worst part is that these are pre-COVID-19 pandemic numbers collected across just 44 out of the 50 states in one country.

Subsequently, about 70% of romantic couples break up within the first year of dating.

Do you know what all these romantic relationships and marriages had in common? They consisted of once “happy couples”.

I am sure that the 2024 figures globally are bound to be much higher.

I’m not trying to be a “debby downer” or anything. Still, I led with these statistics to inform you that your seemingly “happy and peaceful romantic relationship or marriage” might be heading towards the edge of a cliff without your knowledge.

Yes, I know there are a myriad of factors that contribute to the dissolution of the once-happy union, but among them, lies an unsuspecting killer that creeps up and kills any relationship.

It’s name…

complacency.

I know that was a tad dramatic but it doesn’t take away from the danger this brings to any happy romantic union.

Complacency is dangerous because it brings even more harmful things to the relationship.

Once couples start getting complacent, things like; a lack of gratitude, affection for each other and a lack of effort to maintain their union start creeping in.

This complacency increases the distance between them (the couples) emotionally.

Once there is enough distance between a couple emotionally, the end of their union becomes inevitable.

Complacency manifests in the following ways;

And so much more.

This in turn will then lead to the following consequences;

To name a few.

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1. Acknowledge each other’s bids for emotional connection
Bids for emotional connection are like little signals or attempts people make to connect with their partner emotionally in their relationships.

These signals can be obvious, like when they ask their partner for support or tell their partner "I love you," or they can be more subtle, like when they share a joke, share a meme with their partner on social media or smile at their partner.

When one partner makes these signals, how the other partner responds matters. There are three ways they might react:

Turning Towards: This means responding positively, like showing support or interest. For example, if a partner says they had a bad day, the other might listen and offer comfort.

Turning Away: This happens when someone ignores or brushes off the signal. For instance, if one person shares something important and the other changes the subject or acts like it's not a big deal.

Turning Against: This is when someone responds negatively, like getting upset or blaming their partner when they bid to connect with them emotionally. For example, if one partner opens up about a problem and their partner gets mad or criticizes them.

Couples that are successful in the long haul turn towards each other 85% of the time while couples that break up or divorce turn towards each other and acknowledge each other’s bid for connection 33% of the time.

2. Continuous Communication
Open and honest communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. You and your partner should regularly discuss your feelings, needs, and desires to ensure you are on the same page and to address any issues before they escalate.

This ongoing dialogue will help you keep the relationship dynamic and prevent any form of stagnation that often leads to complacency.

3. Shared Goals and Adventures
You can avoid complacency by setting and pursuing shared goals and adventures together.

This could include travelling to new places, trying new activities, or working towards common objectives such as saving for a house or starting a family. Shared experiences create bonds and keep the relationship exciting and fresh.

4. Regular Relationship Check-ins
Just as you have performance reviews at work, you can also benefit from regular relationship check-ins.

This involves setting aside dedicated time to reflect on the state of your relationship, discuss any concerns or grievances, and brainstorm ways to keep your connection strong.

By proactively addressing potential issues, you can prevent complacency from taking hold.

5. Individual Growth and Development
Encouraging each other's personal growth and development is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship.

You and your partner should support each other's interests, hobbies, and aspirations.

Doing this allows you to continue evolving individually and as a couple. This not only prevents complacency but also fosters mutual respect and admiration.

6. Surprise and Spontaneity
Injecting spontaneity and surprises into your relationship helps to keep things exciting and prevents routine from setting in.

This could be as simple as planning a surprise date night or whisking your partner away for a weekend getaway.

Small gestures of affection and thoughtfulness go a long way in keeping the spark in your relationship alive.

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