You’ve been doing it backwards your whole damn life.
“We have insane chemistry. This proves we’re meant for each other. So let’s become fuck buddies for a few months, move in together, get married, and start having babies ASAP.”
This sounds fucking ridiculous, right?
It is.
But this is exactly what most people do (Sadly, including some of my clients before they got their shit together.)
Then when everything eventually goes tits up—like it always does—they start crying about how love never works for them.
Let me ask you this,
If you pick the road to hell, why are you shocked when you arrive?
This is what happens when you treat chemistry like a prophecy.
You feel good and assume it means go.
But “we vibe” is not a vetting process.
It’s a fucking dopamine trap.
And dating apps bank on this exact trap.
They sell you intensity, not alignment, because lust sells and compatibility doesn’t.
Let me break it down…
Chemistry is just the art of getting along.
It’s shared laughs, sex, playlists and inside jokes. It’s surface-level, addictive and very easy to fake.
Compatibility, on the other hand, is the real work. It’s values, worldviews, emotional maturity and life direction.
That’s the stuff relationships live or die on. Sadly, most people don’t filter for it.
They just go with whoever feels good…
And end up wasting their peace, time, emotional energy, standards, self-respect, and self-trust.
This is the pattern, and it’s killing your chance at real love.
Here’s the actual order that works: Compatibility → Chemistry → Connection.
Not “Chemistry = Connection.”
That’ll get you emotionally wrecked eleven out of ten times and twice on a Sunday.
Skip the first C (Compatibility), and you’re just dressing up chaos and calling it romance.
Filter for it early, before oxytocin (your pleasure-seeking, boundary-sabotaging, ADHD part of your brain) scrambles your brain, turns red flags into fireworks and love into a hallucination.
Because once attachment kicks in, your standards don’t just lower…they evaporate.
And then it’s another heartbreak.
Another “almost.”
And another round of “WTF happened?”
But it didn’t just happen.
You chose wrong.
Because you never had a system to choose right.
So what now?
If you're tired of guessing and hoping…
If you want to stop picking from pain, trauma, or “vibes”…
And start choosing from clarity, alignment, and peace…
Then you need a system that works before the feelings take over.
That system is called the Compatibility Filter.
It helps you protect your peace, standards, time and future before you get attached to the wrong one again.
It’s $227.32.
One decision now saves you years of emotional debt later.
Feelings fade, but patterns repeat.
Get the system that helps you choose better every single time.
See you next Sunday.