Cutting Through the Noise

On today’s issue, we’d be tackling:

Let’s begin!!!

3 weeks ago I shared the secret to choosing the right partner for you using what I called the 3C’s. Today’s issue will be building on that foundation but going deeper.

The second C I explained dealt with compatibility. For those of you who haven’t read the issue, please read it. But to give a summary, You are compatible with someone you have shared values and beliefs with.

The problem here is that people lie.

People pretend to be who they are not. And they pretend to have values and beliefs that are not true to them to fulfil their selfish interests.

So to a reasonable extent, people who know what they are doing can fake compatibility with others.

Especially nowadays when one can easily know the values and beliefs of others by scrolling through their social media posts and pages.

This is why it is even more important to cut through the bullshit and see people for who they are, not the actors they play when they are in public.

In the best-case scenario, the failure to know someone better before entering into a romantic relationship with them may include but is not limited to; having a shallow relationship with them, frequent misunderstandings, a lack of trust in the relationship, little to no genuine intimacy, feeling alone in the relationship and much more.

In the worst-case scenario, the failure is even more dire, especially when faced with someone with evil intent. The consequence can cost you your life. No, I’m not being dramatic. The grave is filled with people who out of their carelessness, did not take this seriously and ended up paying the ultimate price.

But if you dot your “I’s” and cross your “T’s”, you’d not only enjoy benefits like; authenticity, deeper and genuine intimacy, solid trust, effective communication, genuine friendship and so much more in your romantic relationship, but you can also sleep easy knowing you did your due diligence because your romantic partner is not planning to kill you in your sleep.

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Listen with your eyes
Yes, you read that right. Listen with your eyes. It’s a practice I don’t only practice in my personal life, but I also teach it to my clients who need it too.

By listening with your eyes, here’s what I mean;
Watch what people consistently do in different environments, scenarios and situations. People tell you who they are by their actions and the motivation behind their actions.

Don’t just take the words they tell you as the truth because people lie. Instead, watch what they do. Their actions will tell you who they are.
And when they show you who they are, believe them immediately.

See with your ears
There’s this series I enjoyed watching called See. The gist of the story is that humanity lost its sense of sight so everyone had to learn to see and interact with the world and each other with their sense of hearing. A.K.A they learned to see with their ears.

To truly see with your ears. Listen closely, not just to words, but to what's being said. Listen to what they say, how they say it, in the context they choose to say it and what they choose not to say.

Look at their friends

Jim Rohn said, “we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with”. This is because humans by nature were created to be influenced by our environment.

It’s what has helped us adapt and survive long enough to carry on living as a species.

A good way to know who people are is by looking at the people they spend their time with online and offline. Also, look at the kind of people they look up to and admire.

Observe how they dress
Often, how people dress reflects what's going on in their minds and how they see themselves. How they appear hints at the type of person they currently are.

Observe how they behave around people
You know those movies where the mean, popular girl disrespects the help? Well, that happens in real life too. A good way to know people for who they are is by paying close attention to their relationships with other people.

Pay attention to how they treat people who are “above them” whom they can gain much from and people who are seemingly “below them” whom they cannot get anything from. Also, observe their boundaries with people and how they enforce them.

Give it time
Time reveals all things. It is hard for most people to pretend for a long period. Time reveals all forms of deception. Make time your ally. Give the relationship time.

As a valued community member, I can assist you in effortlessly attracting your ideal romantic partner and nurturing a satisfying relationship through my simple 3-step method and services;

1. Through the Love Navigator program. It is a tailored coaching program to help you confidently navigate the dating scene. This program will teach you the art of vetting potential romantic partners and mastering the skills to become irresistible to your ideal match. You can express your interest in embarking on this transformative journey here.
You can also opt-in for personalized one-off coaching sessions with me to tackle your romantic relationship challenges and get your personalised roadmap for relationship success.

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